SECTION 1
"PLAN IT NOW"
1. Schedule your time to achieve the best
Some things are killers of marriage and the destroyer of homes. It is when one does not schedule their time properly for family success that ugly things happen, and this can happen because of the duties that are in the business that one must pay attention to.
every time that there are urgent issues coming up in the business front, it can take away the time that we are supposed to use for other important family things.
There's a question that every married couple must answer in their marriages.
1. What is the best thing What do you want in their life as a couple?
The answer must be categorized under three or four sub-headings for example,
Is your business more important than their love life?
You must decide whether your children must get attention that is equal to your love life.
You must decide which hours of the day or the week that you want to give to building your family.
These are the issues that must be decided so that you will know what is best for your family from the beginning.
Although things might change later as years roll by, at least a parameter has been set and you will not want to lower the standard that you have set for your family and marriage.
GOLDEN KEYS
Build your Love map
As per John Gottmans research, love maps are a fundamental element to make relationships work in the long run.
Taking care of your love maps, or the knowledge you have about your partner will make sure you keep a happy, long-lasting relationship.
This is important questions, Bellow, that you need answers for:
What are love maps?
Why are love maps so important?
How can you use love maps to improve your relationships?
But the definition of a love map is simple:
A love map is the knowledge you have about your partner.
It sounds simple, isn't it?
Yes, because it is so.
And it gets better: building a love map means getting you your partner.
If it were just that simple, we wouldnt have even needed an explanation on it. But there is something more in it for you.
The more you know about your partner, the richer your love map is. Heres some example of what is inside a love map:
Major events in your partners life
Goals and dreams
Worries and fears
Favorite food, cities, holidays, etc.
Love Map Updates
The bulk of the love map stays the same.
Once you deeply get to know your partner, you have most of your map. But it t end there.
As your partner grows and changes, so should the love maps get updated.
This means you stay curious about your partner, and it's crucial to keep the relationship strong.
Why is this so?
Because updating love maps sends that message that you care about your partner.
2. Updates are where most couples slip
3. At the beginning of a relationship, it's easier to build love maps.
This might be even more true in more traditional cultures or in cultures with a longer dating period before sex.
Staying longer without sex is obviously not a guarantee that the couple is any good at building love maps. Stopping to care, or disengagement is the first sign of betrayal.
Indeed as we will see that it is the perfect recipe for romance to die -and extramarital affairs to blossom-.
STACK YOUR LOVE DUTIES AS IF YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT
You have a choice in life. You can either live on-purpose, according to a plan you've set. Or you can live by accident, reacting to the demands of others.
Michael Hyatt
HOW TO STACK UP YOUR LOVE LIFE AND WORKWEEK.
All is to give you a balanced life.
If you want to be more productive and efficient with your time and win your family? Connect to your spouse's heart and desires. An effective plan sees every important member of your family in the picture.
STEPS TO HELP YOU PLAN YOUR WEEK.
Create an outline of what youre going to do each day.
This plan doesnt have to be detailed, but it should help you feel prepared for the entire week.
Before you begin planning your week, make sure you have all the tools you need to keep you on track. eg. use a blank notebook for writing notes, setting deadlines, and a weekly calendar to keep track of your appointments.
1: Review Your Big Plans First to accommodate your family time.
The yearly goals you've set for yourself, monthly priorities and plans. Go over it again. Make note of any appointments or events that you need to plan around also.
2: Create a Separate Detailed List of Appointments
Go through the list and see if theres anything that could be moved to another week if its not urgent now.
3: Set Your Priorities within the list.
What absolutely needs to get done this week. Highlight these tasks as your weekly priorities. Your priorities list shouldn't be more than 3-7 items.
4: Design Your Action Plan.
Think about an action plan that will help you get your priorities completed easily.
5: List Out Your Schedule for priority activities
Sort out which of your priority tasks that you are going to do each day of the week.
Group similar tasks together for each day of the week, choose the one big thing that must be done quickly. This will help you to stay focused and accomplish the most important thing that matters to your marriage and family first.
6. Be honest about your feelings.
If the persons comment is loud and clear and youre clearly upset by it, move the conversation over to email or the phone (depending on your relationship). If they say something inappropriate or hurtful, let them know how you felt about it
